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The Widows Club
Widowers are included in the club as well. I’m in my fifties, and I tend to know more women than men who are close to my age that I count as part of the widows club. No one wants to be in the widows club, of course. If you are closer to 80 though, it […]
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Good Intentions
I started this blog with the intent of regularly posting but somehow lost my way. Today is a beautiful spring day. The last time I blogged it was still winter–the time of year I struggle with my mood–and the time that I will now always associate with my husband’s last days. Getting to spring means […]
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Problem Solving
Becoming a widow brought a new batch of problems into my life. The obvious problem of grief. Figuring out to sort through all the red tape that happens with someone’s death—still trying to figure some of that out. I often trusted my husband to know what the wisest, most cost effective thing to do when […]
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In Lieu of Flowers
We have all been to a funeral or two if we have been on the planet for several decades. It is one thing to attend a funeral—another thing to be on the other side as the spouse of the person who has just died. Going through the process I had a million thoughts–some I wish […]
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Comfort Zone Revisited–Being a Widow
In bloganuary one of the prompts was writing about getting out of your comfort zone. I wrote about how becoming a widow forced me to get out of my comfort zone. There is a flip side to this. I think there are times I mention something related to becoming a widow I make people uncomfortable. […]
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The Big C……why didn’t you???
My husband died of cancer. He had battled cancer once before. Upon hearing my husband had died of cancer, I suppose people struggle with what to say. Cancer makes no sense. It is a thief, a terrible adversary. For some, they must contemplate aloud possible solutions to battle the adversary. I realize people are trying […]
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Ideal Day–Bloganuary
An ideal day for me consists of simple pleasures. It would be just like the day I am having today. The sun is shining. It is 40 degrees out–for January I will take it! I have the day off of work. Time to binge watch a show. Candles are burning. The dog is snuggled up […]
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Bloganuary–What Do People Incorrectly Assume About You?
I’m quiet so I think a few people assume there isn’t an intelligence or depth of personality within me. I’m a fiftyish widow—I think that brings some assumptions from others but I am not sure what they are. In some respects I think this makes me invisible to others so that they don’t see anything […]
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Bloganuary—leaving your comfort zone
Loving the wordpress blogging prompts–this is a good one! Watching your husband die of cancer and becoming a widow–it is the kind of leaving your comfort zone that no one wants to experience. Still though, life must go on. It means finding new ways to be happy that are different than doing things as a […]
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Bloganuary—Advice to My Teenaged Self
So I just found out wordpress is giving us blogging prompts for the month of January—thus bloganuary!!! I’ve had a couple wordpress blogs in the past —years ago wordpress used to suggest daily blogging prompts and I had fun with those. What advice would I give to my teenaged self? Would my teenaged self have […]